Street harassment, illustrated.
Dudes: it is NOT a complement. Unwanted and unasked-for attention is actually kind of threatening. YOU may not turn violent if we fail to respond to your catcalling, or fail to respond positively… but 1) WE don’t know that. 2) We may not be as lucky with the next guy.
I got hit on and chatted up by a guy while waiting for a bus at 1am on a less-than-lit street corner in the city ages back. He was probably a foot taller than me, and even though I’m not a tiny girl, he was big enough he could have tossed me over his shoulder, and I’d have been in trouble. I am sure this guy meant nothing by it. He may even have truly wanted to date me. And I was still fucking terrified.
Did I tell you all about the time I was waiting for a bus at 1am and a guy tried to get me to go into his car with him? When there was no one else on the street but me? When I had to insist FOUR TIMES that no, I didn’t want to get into his car but would rather wait for the bus? When I was shaking so hard I almost forgot how to speak German? That was a fun time. And by ‘fun’, I mean ABSOLUTELY TERRIFYING.